Tribute to
My Beloved Husband
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. Isaiah 55:8
Eben never liked to worry about anything, his mantra being (nōni bako dañ ñshō s3 eyōō) to wit “there is nothing that happens that has never occurred before”.
It is with a heavy heart that I pay this tribute to my friend and husband of five (5) decades.
I met Eben, my husband, whose mortal remains lie before us this day for the first time at Kwadaso Agriculture College, Kumasi, in the Ashanti Region in February 1976, where I had gone to pursue a three (3) year certificate course in general agriculture.
As fresh students eager to explore our new environment, we rallied ourselves together and went on a stroll through the immediate campus surroundings. Galore, as he was affectionately called, happened to be among this group of students. We got attached and by the end of our first term in school, the foundation for a relationship had been laid between us, which would span a period of fifty (50) years.
At school, portions of cropped land were allocated to each of us to clear. Hailing from a farming community and accustomed to farming, I would finish mine on time and help him with his own. In the rainy season when mushrooms became abundant, the gentlemen would harvest and Galore would bring the mushrooms to me to prepare light soup for them.
At other times, when communal feeding at the dining hall failed, which happened every now and then, he would give me his stipend and ask to partake of whatever I get to eat … and so our friendship blossomed.
After school, we both opted for the Department of Animal Husbandry for our practical attachment. During postings, he was sent to the Amrahia Dairy Farm in the Greater Accra Region while I was posted to the Volta Region. We continued to exchange visits until we decided to settle down.
Eben lived for family, so much so that, despite having the opportunity to continue living abroad, he returned home to be with his family, determined to brave it here in Ghana, no matter what.
Indeed, life was not economically easy at all in the beginning but Eben was a fighter. At various stages of our lives together, he undertook various side jobs to supplement our income. At Banana Inn for example, he kept poultry, and was a Mamprobi taxi driver in the evenings after work. Life later happened and then we returned to live in Jamestown when his mom relocated from her rented James Town residence.
Given that there was no safe place in James Town to do the poultry, he started a piggery behind the Fire Service training school with two large white gilts; a gift from one Mr. Sekley of Alogboshie, near Achimota, where I was working as an extension officer at the time. The piggery helped to put food on the table and pay ever ballooning school fees. In addition to the piggery, he also cultivated a pepper farm at his work place at Ablorh Adjei where he was in charge of developing paddocks for pasture. There were several times when he had to balance two maxi bags of chilli pepper and myself on his motor bike from Ablorh Adjei to Jamestown … such was his determination.
Eben was a fabulous teacher. He involved all of us in every side job he undertook, thus teaching his children hard work, from hawking eggs, dried pepper etc. and also teaching them how not to put all their eggs in one basket. No matter where he moved to, his side hustles were a constant.
Eben was the living proof of service personified; no job was menial. No wonder he picked up carpenter’s tools every now and then, in his green agric extension uniform, and went to our daughter’s school at MOH Basic School, Korle Bu, to repair her broken desk and also fix other desks that were broken and awaiting repairs … earning him the title of the school’s part-time carpenter.
Eben was a hands-on person, and he mastered Do It Yourself (DIY) structures for both his poultry and pigs until he was financially sound to hire labour.
Eben believed strongly in the education of his children and whenever the need arose, he either borrowed money or sold personal items so that fees could be paid. At other times, he brokered payment terms … anything to allow his children to stay in the classroom.
My Eben was humble, hardworking, lived simply, cherished friendships; flowing with both young and old and was generous to a fault … In fact, Eben has always been very generous even in the days when he had very little; with my family members, and anyone who came his way … he would go out of his way to help. And he would sometimes over-extend, to his own detriment. Eben never knew rest; he was always on the move. He cherished songs and wished to sing but could not because, according to him, his voice cannot be found on the piano. He would thus get me to record his favourite songs when phone recordings became possible so he could listen at will.
Eben was good to me; he was my friend, my play mate, my confidante, and my sparring mate. He will go nowhere without taking me along; earning us the nickname “Kommley k3 Johnson”. Eben never liked to worry about anything, his mantra being (nōni bako dañ ñshō s3 eyōō) to wit “there is nothing that happens that has never occurred before”.
Eben had a deep sense of humour, which allowed him to appreciate with humour his difficult early days. In fact, when at age 70, he was celebrated with a car gift, my husband was apparently still in a dream state concerning the car the morning after. To be sure he was not dreaming, he held my hand and together we went out to see if the car was still parked where he had left it the previous day. We all burst out into laughter and it became our inside joke subsequently; and his response would always be “Aooo Eben, ‘namō aalé’”, translated “Aooo Eben, who would have known”.
On Friday 14th August, 2026, my Eben went to the poultry pen as he usually did every morning. He came back, ate his breakfast and returned to the pen only for us to be called that he was indisposed and needed to be taken to the hospital. When our two daughters got there he was unresponsive. They took him to the hospital and by the third day, he was gone.
No last words … Like a dream; not the dream that ends in the laughter and teasing we had shared over the years but one that has brought sorrow, pain, heart break and tears. Eben, who am I going to crack jokes with, quarrel with and have fun with, since these were what fused us together? You were supposed to be around for me to also celebrate my 70th so we could compare notes … My dear, I really wish you had lived a little bit longer to continue to enjoy the fruits of your labour, but thus far has the Lord brought us.
Kiss my Elikem, our first grandson, for me. Only God knows why I had to lose the two of you in less than a year … I cast my burden unto Him.
My Eben, my love, rest well till we meet again.May God take care of the two of you for me. Amen.